7 Reading Tips for Busy Moms

Reading is not merely a hobby. It’s a need! We read not only for leisure, but to help us to improve ourselves, improve our lives, as well as to gain more knowledge regarding the situation or responsibilities that we currently hold. I keep getting this one same question on how do I find times to read?

So I wanna share here some of the tips that I’ve found & been practicing since a few years back in order to make sure that I have time to read everyday.

1)  Read when your kids are asleep. For example, spend half an hour in the morning to read before they wake up. Believe me, it’s the the best me-time moment to be spent with reading. Or perhaps you can read at night after the kids are asleep. Just a few minutes or pages won’t disturb your sleeping schedule. And it’s a bonus if you breastfeed your baby, because you will have longer time to read. Stop scrolling your instagram/fb feed & start flipping pages to read.

2)  Always have your books in scattered areas around the house. Put a few books at the dry kitchen, a shelf in the living room, a stack beside your bed, or 10 stacks on your working table. This can help you to read at any time even for a few minutes. For example, while waiting for your cupcakes to bake, you can enjoy reading a chapter or two from any books available near you.

3) Never go out without a book in your handbag. If you really want, you will definitely find time to read books. In the car (if you’re not driving), in the train, while waiting for the grab/uber, while waiting for your foods to arrive your table, or while queueing to order your favorite coffee.

4)  Read lots of books at once. Meaning to say, you don’t have to wait till you’re done with one book in order to proceed with another one. (But if you’re reading novels, the game might be a bit different since leaving the book for a long period of time will make you forget the flow of the story). If you ask me, I rarely ready novels or fictional books, so it doesn’t affect me much if I don’t read a certain book continuously till the last page.

5) Read the topic that you really want to know & can apply right away. Hey, do you know that you don’t have to read a book from cover to cover? You can simply look at the content and choose the topic which is new to you, or important for you to know. It will be much better if you read about the stuffs that you can practice right away. Let’s take a parenting book for example; you are in need to know the correct way to deal with your kids tantrum. You can read the topics that are related to your situations or needs only. Because, admit it, you won’t remember the whole book even at the moment you finished reading the last page of it.

6) Make a reading log/diary. Have a list of your “want to read”, “read” & “currently reading”. You can make it online (eg: make an account at Goodreads) or offline (buy a book to jot down your reading journey). Why? Because when you have this log, it can help you to be more motivated to read books. Sometimes it’s not that we’re so busy to read, we just haven’t found the motivation to do so.

7) Find the books that you’re really passionate about. Don’t buy a book just because it’s a bestseller. Buy it if you love it & really excited to read it, doesn’t matter if it’s not a bestseller book. As for me, since I am mompreneur (mom + entrepreneur), my most favorite genres are parenting, entrepreneurship & motivation. So when we already have the book that we really love available near us, it’s not so hard to actually spend time to take the book and read it.

Hope these help! 😄 If you have any tips to add, feel free to drop it the comment section.

From Canada with Love

Bismillah.

Quick update before sleeping. Just wanna make sure that the brand new old story that I heard from Abah yesterday is recorded here. Nothing really, it's just about me when I was a tiny newborn.

We were actually having our dinner when suddenly the topic about going to Korea next year (on February) is being discussed. Ma (my mom) wants to go there badly before my brother who's now studying there graduates & returns to Malaysia for good. Abah said he feels reluctant to go in the current situation where his father is heavily sick. I understand & respect his decision, so Abah suggested me to accompany Ma and I said no problem. Haha. Of course I wanna go there. But! Oh no I forgot that I can't make it as well if the trip is on February. If it's on June and above, inshaAllah I can. But, sobs....

Oh wait, that's not what I wanted to share here! Okay after having a talk about Korea, Abah said that he doesn't really feel excited about going overseas, because when he was younger he already traveled to a few countries & for him it's enough. He told us that he already went to Canada, US, India & Pakistan when we lived in Scotland. Oh I didn't know that? Only heard about Canada but not the other countries.

I felt interested to know about Abah's journeys to those places but one point that really caught my attention is when Abah told me that he got my name in Canada, a friend of his suggested that name to him while he was there. So I asked Abah,

"You weren't there on the day I was born?"

Abah answered,

"Of course I was there, but a few days after you were born, I fly to Canada. Leaving your mom & older siblings in the care of Allah. And only after returning from Canada did I register your name; Sajidah- the woman who prostrates to her God."

Can you guess what is the one point that really makes me amazed & in awe? It's the strength of my mom for being able to handle 3 kids + 1 newborn ALONE in a country far from Malaysia. And to think how she managed to spend the confinement period almost 100% on her own, only with the help from Allah, mashaAllah she's truly an inspiration.

Somehow the story of my dad being absent during the first days of my life, making me feel that I can relate that situation to my current life; the strength that my mom had during those days has actually transferred into myself & maybe that's the reason why I am strong as well. ;) Not praising myself though, it's just that I feel that after getting married and being a mom myself, I have been in lotsa situations where I need to be independent for my daughter & be strong for the sake of my family.

Whatever it is, I feel good to know about that short story from Abah. It really reminds me that I have to be strong & not easily give up because I am the only one responsible to travel my own journey called life.

Sorry this entry is not as short as I thought it would be. 😂 It's already 12am and it's time for me to sleep. Got an appointment tomorrow morning.

Till then, goodnight!

Raising a Young Writer

Bismillah.

Earlier today, I posted a pic of my daughter's first essay. It's about her experience going to the Zoo. I asked her to write what she saw, what she did and with whom did she go there. Apparently she only wrote about the animals that she saw there, PLUS she wrote it in English & some Malay. Hahahah.

She switches code and that's normal for a bilingual kid like her (but she's a trilingual in the making actually). Wait, is it normal? Because I only know that code-switching is normal in verbal conversations, what about in writing? It's okay, it's a learning process anyway.

I am actually trying to teach my daughter to write. I wanna raise her as a good writer. No, not a writer as a job for sure. But I want her to be good in telling/sharing stories, as well as expressing what she feels. I always feel that kids who are good in writing, somehow are well mannered and matured earlier than other kids in the same age but not used to writing.

Do you know Mukhtar, the writer from Pawsome Lion blog? He's a young blogger. If I am not mistaken, he's 11. And he's incredibly well mannered, matured and a good brother to his little siblings. (And I think it has something to do with his writing passion.) Everybody says so, you can follow his family's instagram: @thefamily.uk. They are Malaysians living abroad. Adorable family mashaAllah.

Okay back to the reason why I want my daughter to be good in writing in her early age. For me when someone writes, they need to think and ponder a lot. And in my honest opinion, a good writer is also a good observer.

We don't really have to read too many books in order to start to be a good writer, instead, we need to observe a lot, have ample of life experiences, besides practicing to write and write and write. Writing based on our own experiences will be much more from the heart and helps a lot to write better. However, of course I don't deny the importance of reading a lot to be able to become a good writer.

One of my ways to increase my daughter's interest towards writing is; to buy her a book specially for her to write about anything. Oh can't wait for it!

It's already Maghrib here, so, see you soon!

Of Sadness & Silence

In the train.

And I wanna try to write down something. It's about telling our sadness to other people. I feel triggered to write about this after I saw this one quote that says;

"Kesedihan itu mengecil jika dirahsiakan, dan membesar jika dikeluhkan..."

Isn't it true? When we keep trying to find someone to listen to our miseries and sad stories, the sadness somehow stays longer in the heart & we are drowned in it for quite a long time. And we kinda feel comfortable to stay in that gloomy feelings without having the effort to find the solution or at least to look for things that can distract our mind & soul to forget about it.

On the other hand, if we teach ourselves to tell God every time we are in grief, and at the same time we choose to keep the sadness to ourselves, we will feel better and realize that it's a whole lot easier to free ourselves from the sadness, as well as to avoid our souls to get carried away.

It's not wrong to share our sadness with others if we feel that it can help to ease our pain. But we need to be careful not to make ourself engrossed in that situation & feel incomplete whenever there's nobody available to listen to us.

Will write soon. The train almost reaches my destination. Bye :)

Rahsia Kita & Tuhan

Bismillah.

Pernah tak kita diuji dengan sesuatu perkara yang kita tak mampu nak ceritakan pada sesiapa? Segala jerit perih yang dialami, kita hanya berkongsi dengan Tuhan. Semakin hari kita rasa kita semakin lemah, kerana ujian yang ditanggung terasa kian berat.

Paling menyakitkan kerana semua yang melihat kita beranggapan bahawa semuanya baik-baik sahaja tentang kita. Malah mereka memandang betapa beruntungnya kita dengan takdir hidup yang sedang kita jalani. Mereka hanya nampak apa yang tersurat dan bukan yang tersirat.

Seandainya kita pernah alami situasi ini, ada satu perkara yang harus kita sedari dari ujian sebegini; ujian yang hanya Allah tahu tentangnya, ujian yang tidak mampu kita ceritakan kepada sesiapapun. Iaitu Tuhan sedang mengajar kita untuk bergantung harap padaNya satu-satunya, Dia mahu kita memahami bahawa dalam dunia ini, jika kita hanya ada Dia, kita sebenarnya tidak kurang apa-apa. Tuhan mahu kita sedar bahawa meski tiada siapa yang tahu tentang penderitaan kita, kita tetap mampu bertahan dan terus kuat berjuang dan tidak lain tidak bukan, kekuatan itu hanya datang dari Dia.

Jangan sedih andai orang lain tidak memahami perjuangan kita, apatah lagi kesakitan yang kita alami. Kerana sememangnya mereka tidak ditakdirkan untuk melalui pengalaman seperti kita, lalu bagaimana mereka mampu benar-benar memahami sesuatu perkara yang tidak pernah mereka alami?

Tapi sedihlah seandainya kita tidak menggunakan peluang 'ujian' ini sebagai satu medan yang mendekatkan lagi kita kepada Tuhan. Tuhan tidak pernah menguji kerana benci, tapi Dia mahu kita kembali.

Moga terus kuat, moga terus dekat dengan Allah yang Maha Hebat. <3

Takkan pernah berhenti menyukai kata-katanya yang satu ini. :')

Cheesie Story

Bismillah.

Hi there. Don't you feel it's weird, that out of the blue, I update my blog like, a lot? Well, it's not that I suddenly got lots of free times. It's just that this one book makes me feel like blogging more & actually try to find time for it. And it kinda makes me reminiscing the time where I was so active in blogspot.

So this is the book;

How I Make A Living Blogging; A Very Cheesie Story

I am not sure why, but the moment I saw this book at MPH a few days ago, it suddenly struck me with an idea that I need to be an active blogger as well! But.... my problem is I don't really share good info here. Please pardon me. I just know that I need to update it & make it as a practice for me to write more and more and more, coz the only best way to be good in writing is to write more.

So I am really very sorry if the content of my blog is not all beneficial and might be filled with crappy personal stories of mine. (Hey, doesn't every good writer start with craps as well?) I just wanna make my blog alive & attractive. Nevertheless, I still hope that even though I write personal daily stories, they will give benefits to some people in some ways. 

I really can't separate myself from Blogger. No matter how many social media accounts that I have created & joined, Blogger is still one of my favourites. It has some sentimental values, and I can say that it somehow defines me. All my blogs, they tell different stories regarding different phases of my life. It's so lovely to be able to walk down the memory lane by reading all my writings one time ago. <3

InshaAllah I won't stop writing as long as I am alive. I am not all the time a serious person, that's why I decided not to share only serious contents here. I hope you enjoy all my writings & thank you so much for still reading my blog. 

Okay, it's already a new day & I can barely hold my eyes open. Goodnight! 

P/s: I still hope Blogger App for iPhone will be launched soon.

Aspuri yang Kurindu

Bismillah.

Rasa nak menulis sedikit tentang sekolah asrama. Saya masuk asrama dari umur 13 tahun. Tapi masa tu cuma asrama sekolah harian, bukan sekolah asrama penuh. Walaupun sekolah tu cuma sekolah harian, tapi ia banyak mengubah saya dari segi kerohanian. 

Di asrama tersebutlah saya mula belajar untuk solat jemaah bersama kawan-kawan, belajar untuk membaca al Quran selepas solat, belajar untuk hadiri kuliah agama di surau, dan di sana jugalah saya belajar untuk amalkan zikir-zikir harian yang menyentuh hati. Semua ini saya tidak belajar di rumah. Mungkin kerana suasana di rumah tak sama dengan suasana asrama yang mewajibkan semua untuk solat jemaah (Maghrib & Isyak). Dan mungkin kerana pengaruh rakan sebaya (yang baik) yang menjadikan saya lebih termotivasi untuk sentiasa perbaiki diri dan buat yang terbaik. 

Di asrama harian ini jugalah saya belajar untuk menjadi imam solat kepada rakan-rakan. Semestinya ia pengalaman baru, dan saya amat hargai nikmat itu semua. Tak sangka walaupun ia cuma sekolah menengah biasa dengan pelajar-pelajar biasa (yang gila-gila pun ramai juga) yang bukan dari latar belakang sekolah agama, tapi terlalu banyak yang saya pelajari tentang perkara kerohanian di situ. 

Ketika di tingkatan 2, saya dilantik untuk menjadi AJK Keceriaan Aspuri. Tapi masuk sahaja tingkatan 3, saya terus diubah Biro; saya dilantik menjadi Penolong Ketua Biro Kerohanian. Kemungkinan ada senior-senior yang melihat saya sering juga menjadi imam waktu solat, jadi mereka rasakan saya sesuai untuk memegang jawatan tersebut wallahua'lam. Selain jawatan tersebut, saya juga dipertanggungjawabkan untuk menjadi Ketua untuk tingkatan 3 bahagian Aspuri. Kalau diikutkan, masih ramai lagi yang layak, cuma saya sejenis yang adakala cuba untuk cabar diri sendiri & beranikan diri untuk memegang jawatan, sebab saya percaya bila diberi tanggungjawab, diri saya akan jadi lebih berdisiplin. 

Gambar kelas tingkatan 3 di STARP, Kulai. 

Agak banyak sebenarnya jawatan yang harus saya pegang ketika tingkatan 3, yang mana semuanya amat membantu saya dalam menjadi seorang yang lebih matang. Jadi tak ada peluang untuk nakal-nakal masa sekolah. ;) Saya seorang pelajar yang biasa sahaja, tidaklah layak untuk bergelar pelajar contoh atau pelajar terbaik dari segi akademik & sahsiah. Tapi mungkin jawatan tu Tuhan beri sebagai cara untuk mendidik saya. Alhamdulillah syukur Tuhan pilih semua itu untuk saya. Memang terlalu banyak perkara yang saya belajar darinya. <3


Dan ketika tingkatan 4, saya mengalami perubahan hidup yang agak drastik selepas memasuki sekolah KISAS. Saya tak nak berbicara panjang tentang perubahan-perubahan tersebut. Sekadar mahu menulis tentang asramanya & apa yang saya belajar dari situ. Di KISAS, saya belajar untuk solat jemaah setiap waktu. Di asrama sebelum ini, solat jemaah hanya Maghrib & Isyak. Di Kisas juga saya belajar untuk melazimi solat sunat Dhuha, zikir pagi petang, serta di situ juga saya belajar untuk solat awal setiap kali masuk waktu. Oh ya, satu lagi perkara baru yang saya belajar di Kisas ialah; memberi tazkirah di hadapan beratus-ratus pelajar termasuk junior & senior. :D

Sahabat sekelas ketika tingkatan 5 di KISAS. 

Terlalu banyak sebenarnya mutiara berharga yang saya pelajari di kedua-dua asrama tersebut, cuma saya tekankan tentang perkara yang berkaitan surau & masjid. :) Memang semuanya itu kenangan yang sangat indah untuk dikenang kembali. Adakala boleh menitis juga airmata kerana merasakan bahawa diri saya yang dulu jauh lebih baik dari diri yang sekarang. Moga ia jadi muhasabah kepada diri saya yang sekarang supaya memperbaiki apa yang kurang inshaAllah.